Nobody really tells you that the biggest part of being married is... figuring stuff out on the fly. You go from wedding plans and registries to deciding whose job has better dental or how much to put toward rent vs. the emergency fund. You’re not just “in love.” You’re logistics partners now. And it’s a whole different game. And if you don’t build with intention, the defaults take over, from old habits to uneven power dynamics and silent stress. Here’s the good news, though: most of it’s fixable.